Book: Proverbs 5
“Drink water from your own well – share your love only with your wife.”
When a couple gets married there is a special relationship that develops where through intimacy a growing bond takes place more than they could have imagined. Any kind of intimacy outside of that relationship actually destroys it.
When thinking about intimacy we often equate that to physical intimacy. Bob and Penny Armstrong in their marriage manual, “Couple Care”, identify three other intimacies that need to be developing in a marriage. These three are, 1) Emotional Intimacy, 2) Spiritual Intimacy, 3) Intellectual Intimacy along with Physical Intimacy. Those who spend their time developing these in their marriage will truly be satisfied from their “own well”.
I remember early in our marriage my wife wanted to be more intimate with me by hearing what I was thinking, how I was feeling, and what God was doing in my heart. This was new territory for me. I found it difficult to be intimate in these areas. Going from single life and not really talking about these things to now been asked to share verbally the deep things from within was a challenge. She was patient with me and eventually I was able to share with her as she did with me.
We challenge each other spiritually to draw closer to the Lord. Their have been times when I have felt a few steps behind her as God was teaching her new things. Then, it is like I leap frog over her spiritually in learning new things. It has gone back and forth many times like that. Part of the reason for that is the spiritual intimacy we have developed with each other. There is much more from that well to drink from!
If you are married, guard your intimacy with your spouse. Take time to consider how God wants you to strengthen your emotional, spiritual, intellectual and physical intimacy. Make time to share with your spouse allowing each of you the opportunity to share.